What JD Vance said on no-fault divorce?
Three years back, in September 2021, Republican senator JD Vance was at Pacifica Christian High school. There, he said that no-fault divorce has made it easier for couples to get divorce. He added that it ruins families and causes problems and distress in children. In his words:
“This is one of the great tricks that I think the sexual revolution pulled on the American populace, which is the idea that like, ‘well, OK, these marriages were fundamentally, you know, they were maybe even violent, but certainly they were unhappy. And so getting rid of them and making it easier for people to shift spouses like they change their underwear, that’s going to make people happier in the long term,’”
“And maybe it worked out for the moms and dads, though I’m skeptical. But it really didn’t work out for the kids of those marriages,”
“And that’s what I think all of us should be honest about, is we’ve run this experiment in real time. And what we have is a lot of very, very real family dysfunction that’s making our kids unhappy.”
Advantages of no-fault divorce
No-fault divorce is good for a family. It is simpler, faster, and easier. It saves a lot of time and ends in an amicable way. There is no finger pointing and no blame game. Children are spared emotional trauma since parents part in a friendly way.
Are bad night dreams and nocturnal dog howling bad?
The relationship between the parents remains good and they can take better care of their kids jointly. There is no washing of dirty linen in public and it remains a private affair. The cost is lesser. Victims of an abusive marriage are helped immensely by it.
Why JD Vance is wrong in every way?
JD Vance had spoken in a senseless way. Every human being has the right of happiness. If a person is not happy in a relationship, the person has every right to quit it. Causes of strained relationships can be due to different wavelengths and thinking of the pair. It might not be the fault of one party but there may just be a mismatch and hence arguments occur. The incompatibility happens and it is not fault of either spouse. One cannot deny such couples divorce. It is their legal right to have it.
In fact, children are helped more when divorce occurs in an amicable way with no stress. When parents continue a relationship that they do not like, they would be stressed out and frustrated. That frustration can pour onto their kids and make them unhappy. If there are frequent fights in a strained relationship, kids will witness it and get traumatized.
If society or religion or law feels that children's happiness counts more, they can take direct care of the kids themselves. If they are more worried about kid's mental well-being, and not the well-being of the parents, they can give free mental counseling to the kids. If they are worried about the future generation, let them make policies for them. But they cannot do so at the expense of the happiness of either parents. They have to strike a balance in between and find a solution so that both parents and kids are happy.
It is inhumane and insensitive to say that even if a relationship is unhappy and abusive, the parents need to continue it. This is an utterly disgusting statement to make on that high administration post.
And if there is a rise in mental issues in children of today, what about other factors that contribute to it??? Internet, social media, mobiles, unhealthy comments of politicians??? Why is JD Vance not talking on them or taking steps to curtail them???
Politicians should not talk what they feel without proper study backing. Only proper studies in this direction conducted by a reputed centre can give a clear idea on it and offer solutions. Till that time, people like Vance should shut their mouths and refrain from talking on it.
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