"There are no happy marriages"

 "There are no happy marriages"

This might sound weird and false to many. But those who think so are lying. This statement is the ground reality of all marriages. None of the married couples are happy. 

There are no happy marriages

People may scorn at this statement and disagree. But at the deepest part of their hearts, they all know that this is the truth. Marriages are just societal ways to satisfy sex hunger and reproduce. There is no other advantage beyond these primitive duties. There is no companionship. Every marriage you will find that husband and wives have their own individual groups where they are more happy to be. Here they also speak a lot against their better halves. 

If marriages look good on the outside, they are not necessarily so. There are many unhappy moments that married couples hide so that society does not know about it. But it helps no one and only increases unhappiness. There are a lot of compromises to be done that is hard on either of the partners. Parenting methods differ and there might be fights over it. 

Some people might accept that their marriage is unhappy. Some may just remain silent when queried on it. And there are some who might vehemently deny that they are in an unhappy marriage. These latter people are psychopaths who live in a fantasy delusional world. They lie not only to the world but to themselves as well. One cannot rely on their information. 

Weddings and couples

People spend do much of time, efforts and money on marriages that ultimately break up or continue in an unhappy way. Everyone enters this institution thinking that what happened with others would not happen with them. But soon their thinking comes crashing down.  Their idea of happiness shifts to making a pseudo appearance of a happy marriage in front of others or to the achievements of their children. Yes, about children who move out or who might rebel against the family. But old people try to seek happiness in these things because society tells them it is so. But this is not true happiness. They need to think about themselves and their happiness. Their duty is to educate their kids and bring them up. But seeking happiness in the kids would lead to heartbreaks. So best avoided. 

Weddings should be a simple occasion of bringing two individuals and their close families together. It should not be a moment of showoff or extravaganza. 

Live-ins

Due to the problems of marriages, youths of today prefer to not marry. Instead they seek solace in live in relationships. That is a great idea. Or there are prenuptial agreements done. 

But do remember that courts have put live in relationships under the gamut of marriages. Hence the problems continue due to interference from society or court. 

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Stop giving so much of undue importance to marriages. Try to find ways that can help people to stay happy with no pressure or injustice to anyone.