Marriage is a universal social institution. It amuses me to see people thinking and strongly believing that is the right thing for a human being. While in fact, it is the other way round. Marriage is one of the worst institution in the world.
Have you mixed red pepper powder and sweet apples together in a box? It is an awful combination. The same is the situation in the case of marriage. You are trying to put two incompatible things into a box and want it to work!!!Of course, it never will, how much ever you try. The end result is going to be sour to taste and live. This is exactly what happens in a marital institution. I am not labeling any one gender as red pepper powder or sweet apples. Either could play these roles in a marriage. It depends who is dominating and who is suppressed.
Every individual is different. They are born of different genders, have had a different upbringing, different experiences of life, and are of different educational level and professions. And you put these two people of different genders into a box called marriage and say work it out. These two can never be true companions in life. It ultimately boils down to the fact that the institution of marriage is just for sex and reproduction (the primitive lower hippocampal instincts of animals and humans). These two genders have different reproductive lives and different sexual urges. And putting them into one box for it would result in a cacophony and mental issues for either or both of them.
And in society, for some unknown vague reasons, men are put into a higher position though they do not deserve it. This, itself, contributes to a lot of problems in society including crimes and mental issues in women. Women cannot be secondary citizens, mind you! The basic fact is that women can live in society alone, while men cannot. Understand this and find a solution if men want women in their lives.
So stop elevating men to levels based on gender. They do not deserve it at any cost. Teach them sensitivity and nurturing right from their childhood days. Let them learn cooking and baby care. Form this a part of their syllabus in schools and colleges. Punish those who do not want to learn it. Punish those who want to harass or molest women. Make strict non-bailable laws against it.
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Give your daughters voice and listen to their problems. A daughter is also your child. She is not an alien. If a son cheats or rapes another women, include it in the purview of 'honor of family ". Never forgive such sons.
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Avoid surname change of women after marriage. Her birth name should be her legal name throughout life as is the case in some developed countries such as France. After all, she is what her parents made her. She needs to respect them and this is one way of doing so. Give daughters their property rights. She should at all cost get her full share of the property legally.
Post marriage, it should be neolocality. It should not be patri locality. There should be no patriarchy. Abolish it completely.
Avoid surnames in forthcoming offsprings. All this minor and major changes are a must for achieving gender equality. Think out of the box and have some gender neutral associations that help. Homosexuality is not a problem due to the brain issue but it is a problem due to the wrong societal issue. This is because the institution of heterosexual marriage is a failure and not fulfilling for either genders. Stop it and think anew with a fair and just mind. You will get an answer yourself.
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