Love is a binder between people! But does it exist truly always?

 Love is a term that means the strong feelings in a person that comes up when you like somebody. It is a positive feeling and provides happiness and a feeling of enjoyment to the person who is in love. Love can be between two people or between two animals. It can be love of a person for inanimate or abstract things as well. It may be love to do some activities or hobbies. But today, here we are going to talk about love in a family.

Love and family

Love is supposed to exist within a family. It is romantic love between parents or parental love between parents and children. It may be love of one relative with another relative. Love is that thing that acts like a cement to bind one individual with another individual in a family. It gives the person loved a sense of belonging. With love, family members remain as a unit. They work for each other and respect each other. They give space to each other and are happy when the other person is happy. They support each other and the family moves forward.

Proper and truthful  communication is important in letting the other person know that you love him or her. It clears misunderstanding and boosts a relation. It helps to set limits and provide support during any eventuality. 

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Is there true love in a family?

The love mentioned above in paragraph one is an ideal and true love. But how often does one find it in an Asian setup? People claim that they love you but it is not in the true sense of the word. The person actually loves himself or herself. The person might just be loving the status or attention or honor he or she gets by being with you. Or the person may just be loving the money, fame, or assets that come by being with you. Alternatively, in a family one member might love money or properties more than you. In the name of culture, religion, or societal values, your ambitions and desires may be crushed.  Your growth may be hampered. You and your desires may be sacrificed in the name of family. Would you call this love?

Well no. This is not love. Love should never gauge a person. Love should take a person in its folds with all the strengths and weaknesses. 

But I would like to correct that love does not mean accepting the extreme wrongs of another person. But love means trying to correct a person if the behavior of the person is harming others. It means not supporting in wrong activities. Here again, efficient communication plays a key role. Love means guiding a person and showing them the light to follow the right path. It does not mean suppressing the person or being overprotective towards him or her. Neither does it mean giving a feeling of possessing the other person. The other person's identity should remain intact. 

Excess love and family

Many times we see that one person in a family showers love on another person in excessive amounts. This person overlooks all the wrongs in the person and thus spoils him or her. Usually this is the case when a mother bestows extra love to her son and this spoils him. This is harmful for the son, the mother, the family and the society. Thus love should be present but neither in excess nor in small amounts. It must just be in right amounts. Consideration of values must be instilled and disciplining and communication should accompany love. It might sound hard but in practice it is not so. Why not give it a try from today? Try to love a person truly. Respect and communicate. Make this world a place worth living.