Why men refuse to ask for help from others and females?

 I have been seeing one most common thing in men and that is the fact that they do not particularly like females who are their equal or superior to them. They are okay if a female is inferior to them so that they can dominate and protect her. That is also one reason that they do not want to ask help from a female even when they are in trouble. Sometimes, this masculine tendency and trait seems quite silly. Even if a female volunteers to help them, they do not want to accept it. I have been told that they also avoid asking help from other men and family members. What is the reason for such a tendency? Is it a natural phenomena or an acquired one due to society?

Men and refusal to take help

It has been observed that instead of asking for help and sorting out things rightly, men prefer to shut themselves and hide from problems. Very rarely do you see men face problems boldly. And when it comes to asking help from a female, they never do it. Living with problems is worse and can lead to emotional, mental, and physical issues. The end results might even be in a tragedy such as suicides. 

This tendency can have serious implications in the form of anger, aggression, depression, fear, phobias, affairs, and addiction. The men feel that they alone have to handle things and pretend that everything is proper and well under control. By such behavior, they are lying to themselves and the world. Nobody is helped by this behavior. 

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Why do men not ask for help in need?

Several reasons could cause a man to not ask for help. Some of these are outlined below:

1. Men think that they can do everything by themselves. This is a wrong thinking. At some point, everyone needs help and it is not wrong to take it. Sharing a work is better than burdening yourself with it.

2. Men feel that females are inferior and cannot help or advise them. This is the thinking of most if not all men. In fact, men and women complement each other in many ways. When I say men and women, I do not imply only husbands and wives. But I also mean any male-female relationship such as brother-sister, son-mother, father-daughter, or two platonic different gender friendship. Hence one might be good at some place or task and the other gender may excel in another place, area, or act. So why feel it below your dignity to take help?

Men refuse to ask for help (Source: Bolde)

3. Men assume that only they have problems

4. Men try to be competitive and if they stand lower in life compared to someone else, they feel ashamed of it. 

5. Men feel that society views them as superior beings and they have to keep up that image. This is a society-made and man-made issue.

6. Men fear rejection that can occur if they ask for help.

7. Men are running away from truth and thus harming themselves and family. 

8. Men feel that when they ask for help from someone, they are empowering them and they cannot tolerate this. 

What is ideal?

As can be seen, all the above notions are wrong and mistaken. These are largely created by society and are in the minds of people only. Proper teaching from childhood days can change this wrong ideas and help to make men accept help from others easily. This would be good for their own health and that of family and society. Why not try to change from today because the wise say:

"What you will do tomorrow, do it today!

And what you will do today, do it now!"